I moved home lastnight after an 8 year relationship with my man and my pups(i miss dearly). He doesn’t want me to see the dogs at all and wants nothing of me cause I will not have an abortion. I am in my 2nd trimester this week. The stress, the hurt, the anger- I feel I made a bad decision. We both agreed we did not want kids and I was on birth control. That decision was based on me not being able to have them- apparantly so. He wants nothing to do with me and we had everything- all I have now is- well nothing. His family and my family and friends are so supportive. He wants this abortion so bad. His friends don’t know yet- sure they will when they see me gone. I just wonder how do I cope without him. I do love him and he really is not a bad guy except when the baby pops up. Plus I am really anxious and want this baby to be healthy. I have been trying to quit smoking (I know- how greedy am I to continue) but I am having a hard time quiting with all my drama. what does pregnant lady do?
Well it’s been 4 days since we spoke and I left. I am having a hard time. Can’t eat, sleep, and working very long hours at work. I have an appointment today to see another ultrasound and speak with a counselor. None of our friends know still. And he seems excited that he kicked me out. Already planning vacations without me! This hurts.
You have the child, and make him pay child support. Explain to the court how he wanted you to abort the child too. They should go hard on him. It will show how selfish he is.
You may think you have nothing now, but once you have a child, your whole life changes. Mine changed for the good. The first time you hold that baby, you never want to let go.
So trust me, motherhood will give your life meaning. Knowing you are needed by someone 24/7 is a special feeling too. So don’t ever think you have nothing. Your child will always be something. Because you’ll always be something to your child.
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you’re broken up with my nominee for loser of the year.
you’re better off, believe me.
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stay away from him and keep healthy for you and your baby, thats the most important thing right now
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im srry 2 hear ur problem. first off reconnect with ur family and friends. they will always pick u up on a break up. secondly, the pain u have to get rid of ur self. Remember this quote that i always tell my self after my bf broke up with me, "love is the greatest pleasure in life, break ups are the worst imaginable, but, ur heart will still beat and the sun will always come up"
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All I can say is that if he dosent want a baby with you regardless if thats what you guys had agreed then he is selfish. And probably dosent love you. Let it be up to you wether if you want this baby or not. Just quit smoking and be strong. For your child. Trust me no matter how bad this seems now the sun will come out. Time will heal all your wounds. But warning: it hurts like hell.
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The cigarettes will cost you the abortion fee. Try to stop!
And if you weren’t able to get pregnant in the first place then why were you on birth control?
I think he feels you tricked him into this and he’s very angry, rightfully so, because he clearly told you what he wants. And just because it may not have been what you wanted, doesn’t give anyone the right to force them to want something.
I think people should respect what others want because when we do try to force things in their lives we get disappointed and hurt when we are left alone to carry on the responsibilities ourselves. This is not fair to your child, it isn’t fair to him, it’s not fair at all. But what is done is done. You are pregnant and I hope you have the baby and make a wonderful life for yourselves and don’t depend on anyone to be there for you, because they just may not be. Hopefully in time he too will take the responsibility on his own but you cannot force these things on anyone. If they clearly told you they want ZERO babies then expect he won’t be there for you. Just pray for the best outcome.
He feels lied to and betrayed I’m sure. But there’s nothing you can do about how he’s feeling now because you’re already pregnant so be prepared for going down this road solo.
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explore other options not all of us single guy`s are a$$holes.
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he didn’t want children, and you’re pregnant–so i don’t see this relationshp working out. it’s foolish to think he will change his mind.
that being said, it’s crazy that he kicked you out–what are you rights regarding your living situation?
if you want this child, keep him or her. if you don’t, then have an aboriton or adoption.
all i know is that i only want ONE child and i have him, so if i got pregnant again (i’m on BC too), i would not keep that second pregnancy. and i told my fiance that. and he’s supportive. and if dumps me because i dont want a second child, his lost.
personally, i think you want your baby, so i would keep him or her. i have a 2 1/2 month old baby and was realy indecisive on whether or not i wanted to keep him, but i decided that i would and he would be my one and only. i couldnt be happier with my decision. i’m with my son’s father, but even if we seperated, which i’m sure we wont, i still would be happy because my son is the greatest mistake (unplanned pregnancy) i ever made.
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while your in the pregnancy stage, take up a hobby, im sure you will be overjoy the moment your baby will come out.
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Do not compound your mistakes and have an abortion. You are in love with a jerk. You’ll be over him after a year or so. If you have an abortion this controlling dude will magically like you again and you will be in the same situation months or years from now wishing you had listened to all of these people telling you to leave that asshole alone. The next time you go to the doctor ask your doctor about helping quitting smoking. He will be able to help. Here’s the good news…you can replace that smoking with more food! Remember you’re eating for two!!!!!
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well think about it… do you really want to raise kids with NO FATHER? Why make them suffer???
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You have the child, and make him pay child support. Explain to the court how he wanted you to abort the child too. They should go hard on him. It will show how selfish he is.
You may think you have nothing now, but once you have a child, your whole life changes. Mine changed for the good. The first time you hold that baby, you never want to let go.
So trust me, motherhood will give your life meaning. Knowing you are needed by someone 24/7 is a special feeling too. So don’t ever think you have nothing. Your child will always be something. Because you’ll always be something to your child.
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